A New Version of the Birds and the Bees…
Published by Megan on Tagged Nature's Lessons, Relationships
Birds and bees flock together, with each other–their same kind. Both have their purposes, different means for survival, different lifestyles, different expressions of self. You hear them put together oftentimes in the same sentence, as I’m doing in this story. They are normally associated with each other when dads are charged with the daunting task of telling their growing children about them.
But, this single bird and single bee story is different….
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First… the bird….
The bird was seasoned, but never seemed to age. She lived life to the fullest, challenging the borders that she had been presented with her entire life. Armed with more wits and moxie than a stereo-typical “bird brain,” she was looked at differently by her family and peers.
Many who observed her moving through life called her beautiful. She soared easily and effortlessly to reach new heights that were set either by herself or by others. She LOVED to fly and explore what it felt like to always be free…. free to dance among raindrops if she chose, free to make beautiful music anytime she felt like singing…. free to express the many facets of her personality without ridicule or shame. She liked being different. She enjoyed being a beacon for others who also wanted to find their true selves.
To the bird, life was grand! Life was full of endless possibility, discovery and exploration. She welcomed change and embraced new experiences.
The bird had one weakness. She had a hard time loving without expectation or attachment. For a very long time, the bird associated love with doing or being something specific. When she was just a little chick, if she behaved well, she received affection. If she didn’t go too far from the nest, she received approval. Love was something you received in exchange for something else. I’m certain that had her “environment” known that this was the perspective of “love” that was being created for the little bird, they would’ve done something differently, but this was all they knew.
At a young age, the bird felt alone because her individuality was a dichotomy. On one hand, it was glorious because she could always be her authentic self. On the other hand, it was hard for her to be understood. Therefore, she looked like everyone loved and adored her, but inside, she felt very separate from the rest of the world. She would later unconsciously search for her reflection, as she later would discover served two purposes…..
The bee….
Fast and furious from the beginning, the bee was on a mission… to get it done. Everything the bee touched, he had to do with vigor and perfection. He had to be the best at whatever it was he chose to do. On the surface, he didn’t seem very flashy, as if he didn’t want the world to know just how great he was, but on the inside, he had a passion for being unstoppable.
The bee’s nest was mobile. They traveled to many places and had to adapt very quickly to life wherever he was at the time. There was a period in the bee’s life where he made a choice to experience life more quickly than his current pace. There was something about the adrenaline and excitement that he experienced going this fast, but this speed definitely had it’s consequences. He had moved so quickly that he soon found himself without the safety of his nest to support him.
He was stuck in his own muck, so it seemed, but he maintained a different vision for his life. Surrounded by the products of his previous choices, he found himself having to make some considerable changes first to himself, and he would later notice something very significant about his words and thoughts….
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The bird continued to flutter around oftentimes aimlessly because she felt so free. She felt like she “bumped into” or was “drawn” to oddity. The reflections that began to manifest around her were also different like her; they marched to their own rhythm like her; they went against the grain and were non-conformists like her. She attracted people like her, but another part of her reflection that she attracted was people who were needy like her.
See, the bird operated from a place of lack in her love life. For a long time, she felt as if she needed something/someone to validate/approve of her,… residue from the early lessons of love she learned. She was a passionate and dedicated “do’er,” almost subconsciously “performing” for approval, albeit it felt so natural to do so. She needed to feel needed… she was a needy person for other needy people, an interesting paradigm that would later, although ironic, serve her.
The bird’s soaring was limited due to all of the “neediness” she was attracting. She carried the weight of “neediness” for a decade before she realized that she was doing this to herself. It wasn’t until she too, began to create a different vision for her life, starting first with herself.
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The bee became enlightened and more conscious about his thoughts and words. So much so, that the other bees around him started to fall away. He would go to some of the same places, but the places were not as attractive anymore. Neither were the other bees. He began to experience a lot of contrast, which in turn would shape his thoughts even more. He even began to take notice of how many of his thoughts and words were beginning to come to past. The things that he was least attached too, he manifested quickly. He didn’t realize that “detachment vs. attachment” played a critical role in manifestation. Nonetheless, the things that he spoke about with passion and feeling, sans attachment would happen almost instantaneously…
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Relationships can be messy, especially when those involved are operating from a place of lack (where the bird was), and a place of attachment/familiarity/comfort (where the bee was). Almost simultaneously, unbeknown to either, the bird and the bee were both consciously carving out/creating their ideal lives with their ideal partners.
The bird… letting go of the old… letting go of the fear of letting go… letting go of the need to be needed…. letting go of the thoughts of being alone…. letting go of past suffering… letting go of what was holding her back. She became complete. She became one with her “Self” and she fell in love with Her. She began to love herself more than she could ever imagine and pour into her vessel the most self-love possible. She had experienced so much contrast of what she thought “love” was, that she could finally express really what it is. She knew that her environment and experiences were a direct reflection of herself, so she created a different perspective/perception of herself that was 100% with or without anything or anyone. She finally felt what it was like to be “in love” when she decided to create her own very personal, “in love” experience with herself.
The bee… constantly providing thoughts and words opposite of what his environment showed, spoke with clarity and conviction the picture of his ideal partner. This took place each time he experienced contrast with this vision. The vision became more specific and more detailed, the more contrast he experienced. Slowly, his environment started to take on the shape of what he felt most strongly about. As he experienced more, he thought and spoke more, every time speaking and feeling as passionately about it as if it was his first time. The interesting thing to note here is that although the bee was carving out this image, he wasn’t “looking” for her. He wasn’t “seeking” his ideal partner. He was just creating her with his words and feelings of what it would be like once she was with him. The bee subconsciously knew that “looking/searching” for her conveyed thoughts and feelings of her not being there, thus she would always seem to elude him. Whereas, creating the picture, without the attachment of having to have her or searching for her, she could gently and in a timely manner manifest.
The bird too, very creatively and in her typical artistic fashion, created an audio of her melodic voice set to song, speaking very carefully the characteristics of her ideal life partner. She spent much time with this audio while loving herself… pouring into her space with energizing activities to strengthen her body and her health. The air was filled with these vibrations of “him” while she went about her daily tasks. She surrounded her aura with the energy of this “him.” She would even fall asleep at night with the audio on repeat… this time without any feelings of lack or neediness attached.
The course was established and the frequencies were in phase.
It was time for the bird’s and the bee’s creation to manifest.
Without warning, and without expectation, the bird and the bee were revealed to each other, both being the physical manifestation of their conscious creations…. their dreams.
To the outside looking in…. the bird, with a bee…. those who know the bird, can see that she’s extremely happy and the bee fits perfectly. He only adds. He doesn’t take away.
To the outside looking in…. the bee with yet another bird? Not the chicken or the hens, but the lark… African in origin, with a graceful and long-lasting melodious song.
How, one may ask, did this work out this way? They both recognized that change begins with self, contrast provides desire, and detachment with inspired action yields manifestation.
…. and together, they are flying and living happily ever after….
… oh yeah… I almost forgot… the bird is me… :c)
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December 26th, 2008 at 1:38 pm
I knew the bird the moment she sang her tune! Fly baby fly!
December 26th, 2008 at 2:17 pm
Thanks Jen! Yes! You’ve witnessed a lot!!! Miss you much!!!
January 15th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
A beautiful love story - I was compelled to read to the end. Even without knowing you - I knew who it was about.
Your happiness is shining through right now
January 15th, 2009 at 7:29 pm
Wonderful and so creative! It was a great story and one with purpose! Thank for sharing it,
January 23rd, 2009 at 6:12 pm
Lovely story and enjoyed every minute of it, its funny how nature and animals have a unique way of living and cohabitating this planet. Well done.
January 23rd, 2009 at 7:46 pm
Wizzer, Denise & Teri,
Thanks so much for the kind words! I’m thrilled that you enjoyed reading the story.
I’m sooooooooooooo elated that it’s TRUE!!!!
May 1st, 2009 at 2:59 pm
I think that was beautifully written. You have a unique way of expressing yourself. I see a lot of my energy releasing channels in you…It’s funny how life has ways of taking one through a storm only to prepare them for the sun and shade…
May 1st, 2009 at 3:16 pm
Shanequa, I couldn’t agree more. It’s life’s delicate balance of opposites that make it so much fun and very very interesting!!!!!