I Love You But….
Published by Megan on Tagged Book Reviews, Ho'oponopono, Relationships
How many times have you spoken or heard those words spoken in that exact order when you observed something about another that you didn’t agree with? I know I’m guilty of doing it often, so much that I hold a wee bit of judgment toward another in my spirit a tad longer than I would normally prefer, but still do nonetheless.
What is it about people that make us put stipulations that follow the words “I love you?” You can name a number of things: “Honey, I love you, but you have to stop doing that….sweetheart, you know I love you but I can’t take your whining anymore…..dear, I love you so much but you don’t seem to understand or get that…” To some, these may appear as very sensitive and considerate statements, but to me it feels a bit pejorative and somewhat condescending.
The more I study and read about the Law of Attraction, I keep hearing the themes of “energy, oneness, wholeness”… all things that go with the concept of being One. So this makes me wonder that if I’m one with the person who I’m attaching some sort of condition to, then what is that doing to me? Better yet, what is that saying about me? Is there some sort of revelation of Self when you notice the differences and contrast in other people?
That’s where the concept of Ho’oponopono and Peace of I come into play to make sense out of this. Abraham-Hicks speaks of this Source of wellness that flows in abundance and we are either in or out, going up or down this stream period. Gregg Braden, the author of the Divine Matrix speaks of space as a blanket and as us and matter as wrinkles in the blanket or waves in the ocean.
I wouldn’t believe that Ho’oponopono was even possible had not Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len healed an entire psyche ward in a mental hospital without seeing a single patient, but only healing areas in himself. Instead of pointing out the flaws in those other people after saying “I love you,” he followed “I love you” with “thank you, I’m sorry and please forgive me” to the Divine in HIMSELF and not anyone else. He didn’t say any of those words followed by the conjunction “but.” Anytime he recognized what could be considered an “error” in “human nature” or a possible “problem” with the psyche, usually that recognition would come up in his body as a feeling of discomfort. To him, this revealed that there is an area inside of him that has contributed to the creation of this person that is “not well.” He is taking complete responsibility and ownership for the way that this person is.
How many people in what most of us would consider their “right” minds would do something like this? Hardly any! We’re so quick to pick out faults in others and praise why we’re not at fault in the same way. Conversely, ho’oponopono totally flips that concept, and says “no, my friend… you are 100% responsible for why they are the way they are and additionally, why the world is the way it is.” That’s an enormous pill for the majority of the world’s population to swallow.
We’re taught by culture, religion and society to differentiate and become outstanding. Be an individual, and separate yourself from everyone else. If anyone has a problem with that, then that’s their problem and not yours. This type of conditioning is what has us where we are today, and depending on how you view the current world’s state, you make a choice as to what you’d like to try or implement to change that if you will.
The last statement is a great segue to another point: the concept of the “free will.” We seem to think that there’s nothing we can do to affect or interfere with anyone’s free will. Even though the concept of Ho’oponopono doesn’t seek to manipulate or take over anyone’s choices, the results can still be the same and manifest in the life of another as Dr. Hew Len has proven.
What science is proving and more people are beginning to understand is that, our thoughts are not unique to us. We harbor other people’s thoughts and vice versa. This goes to say that a person who society classifies as a murderer may have thoughts bubble up in his consciousness of other people contributing to global consciousness that may suggest love instead of harm. The “murderer” may think they are his own thoughts, or he may contribute them to God or something surreal, and in all actuality, it could be coming simply from the global consciousness field, being poured into by transcendental meditation practitioners’ focused and ego-less thoughts.
I want to conclude this article by suggesting that you consider reading Zero Limits and The Divine Matrix to get a fuller understanding of what I’ve only touched upon in this article.
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December 23rd, 2007 at 11:30 pm
Hi Megan,
Found your site from your comment. Nice to meet someone with passion.
Here’s an exercise for your readers.
Restate the “I love you, but…” the other way around ie “…, but I love you.”
It is fascinating what this change alone does on moving people closer to what you are calling “oneness”.
Keep tying in LoA with most people’s missing ingredient - action!
Regards,
Dr Martin Russell
December 24th, 2007 at 7:43 pm
Thanks Dr. Russell! I’ll be trying that exercise as well!
December 26th, 2007 at 11:40 am
I really appreciate your article. It is amazing how a couple of words make a lot of change in the minds of people. I’ll try to start today the exercise of Dr Russel.
December 27th, 2007 at 4:13 am
This was an excellent post. I can’t wait to see what you write next. Great job!!!
December 27th, 2007 at 5:23 pm
What a wonderful read. It makes you think ans step back and take a second look! Denise
December 30th, 2007 at 5:21 pm
Thanks Denise and Jarrell76!